Anyone Can Find Love in 2014 (And We Mean Anyone)

Dating sites for those with more particular requirements

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Swingdiva
Swingdiva

Wow, what a sweeping and misleading headline just begging to be bashed.  Who's responsible for that glib bit of idiocy??  An increase in online dating sites does NOT change the local universe of people you might date, nor does the use of online dating sites necessarily increase your chances of meeting Mr. or Ms Right, nor is dating any guarantee of love.  That's not a given.  Besides, any inference that dating automatically leads to love is just sloppy thinking and willful stupidity.  Love isn't that easily found.  And if you're not in the middle of the bell curve in intelligence or socioeconomic demographics but out on either end, there *aren't* a lot of fish in the sea for you anyway.  Dating websites WILL NOT change that, nor will using an online app.

Second point:  It takes face time to meet and get to know someone.  Apps don't help with that.  And face time is only the actual amount of time you spend with someone -- it doesn't include all that time in between dates when you don't see each other or even talk on the phone (NO, texting doesn't count).  I tried to explain this a few times to different guys who still held to the three-date rule (as in, by the third date either she invites you in for sex afterwards, or you stop seeing her -- bad rule!).  Assuming you've spent an average of about four hours on a date, by the third date you've spent a total of only 12 HOURS together -- only half a day, in sum -- which still leaves you pretty much absolute strangers, certainly not familiar enough to indulge in public health risks  even *with* condoms.  The most you know about each other in terms of the truly important stuff is negligible; after 12 hours, you basically only know whether you want to spend more time actually getting to know each other.  Finding out all the important stuff takes time and conversation, preferably face time.  You don't learn it by texting or reading someone's resume.  Likewise, you won't learn it by reading someone's online profile, either.


Do dating websites work?  Maybe, maybe not.  Perhaps they work best for average people; but then again, those are the folks who already have the numbers going for them anyway.  The internet can certainly connect people who have common interests, providing you have, say, a young physicists' club or a hiking club or an astronomy club in your town.  But that's not a guarantee of meeting someone you'd like to date, either -- it's just a guarantee that you'll meet people who like to do some of the same things you do.  It's good for your social activity but not necessarily for your love life.  In short, this article is just another in a long line of B.S. regarding love and dating in the modern era.  The writers who produced it and the editors who okayed it (AND that awful headline) need a slap upside the head, and you, dear reader, need better reading material.  Look elsewhere.

OKMaguey
OKMaguey

Am amazed that this article is even featured in Todays Top Stories - literally nothing new or informative, nor can "Anyone Find Love in 2014", an extremely broad, innaccurate statement . Title is deceiving, and content has nothing to do with it.  If one is a straight, clean, honest, REAL, person, your chances of finding someone with the same qualities is as likely as winning the lottery!

Although the Internet is a great tool for research, purchasing, etc. it is now just a huge,  dirty "underground" world in personal sites, in once great community sites, in job searches, in virtually all etc. As always, the good things in life are quickly invaded and taken over by the sickos, scammers and people who are simply criminals in one way or another. And, must I add, people seem to confuse just sex with love... love is something that is rare and very special!      

tynkyr_belle
tynkyr_belle

I'm sorry - you're all idiots.


I've been told on MANY occasions that no one would ever want me - EVER.


52 year old fat gay men don't get to find love.  They had their chance when they were younger.  If they're single then - it's too late.


On the other hand - like earthquakes - love doesn't exist.  Oh sure - there's anecdotal evidence - but all that rubble you see is just the same footage of the same demolished buildings over and over again.

JohnJames
JohnJames

The problem with online dating is the guy or girl has access to thousands of profiles at their finger tips, chances are they have a list sex buddies in waiting or while they are chatting to you you know they are also chatting to others.

It kills a lot of relationships before they get started.

At least in the old days you had to go out to meet people, which several limited how many people your potential date or partner might have had or is in contact with.


NickKoblov
NickKoblov

Internet is for porn, and i already found my love there. 2014 is no exception.

mohib
mohib

That is great it is almost impossible to find love these days. Everyone is buisy in war games so how can love and such luxuries exist or rather co exist in this cruel world the next year will be just a year and no exceptions  

NakedLemonCello
NakedLemonCello

@Swingdiva  So how should one go about finding love? You can't dispute people do find it online. Tim Koogle, the former CEO of Yahoo found his wife on Match, so there you have it!

corky_le_meilleur_de_vos_amis
corky_le_meilleur_de_vos_amis

@Swingdiva
Amazing comment!

Dating apps and social networks ==> just a weird kind of way to make money on our social behaviors.

Our modern world is pretty F-up realy. And that thing called "love" isn't that simple. We happened to have one of the longest lifespan in history but, our society gives us more and more absurd B.S to read, listen, drink, eat, think, offer, fear, hate, love and consume. And it gets faster and faster as the technology goes.

Third date rule is just a product of a simple social knowledge: "we all have sexual urge"

This is not love, this is sex guyz..

Anyway, go get a book, people write about love since... Pretty much always now...

Soooo...

Yeah, it takes time.


Greeting from Paris.


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Third date rule is just a product of a simple social knowledge: "we all have sexual urge"

Yeah, kind of like our president right now x"P